|Today’s challenge: Look through a different lense|
Think of a person you don’t like, then find someone who DOES like him (his boss, friend, spouse, parent). Why do they like him? Find one reason, focus on it, and see what happens.
|Let me tell you a story.|
You and your friend go to a meeting; you’re meeting with a bank manager. You walk in, and you see this guy has the most stunning suit you have ever seen.
As you’re talking to him, you notice that one of the buttons on his sleeve is missing.
You stare and stare, and your friend is starting to get embarrassed. Then you lean over and start inspecting the missing button up close – like a jeweler looks at diamonds.
You tell your friend, “Look at that – there’s a gaping hole and the threads are torn. This suit is a disaster!”
You’re probably thinking, “What a crazy story. I would never do that!”
Are you sure?
We have people in our lives that we really don’t like. How did that happen?
Simple. We’re so focused on their flaws, that they grow to be so large, they completely cover up their good points.
A Gadol once said, “No wonder you hate me – if I was what you imagined me to be, I’d also hate myself.”
So here’s some wisdom.
Every person you like has good and bad in them.
Every person you don’t like has good and bad in them.
Its about where you have chosen to focus your vision.
So take the shalom challenge and pick a person whom you don’t like. For one minute, mute all that you dislike about that person.
I know. It will be hard.
Next, find someone who likes or respects this person.
His friend, his spouse, his parents, his students, his Rebbi…
Climb into their mind, and look at the person you don’t like through their eyes.
What do they see?
C’mon, you can do it!
And when you do, maybe you can consider that you have a slightly prejudiced opinion towards this person.
Maybe your laser focus and ruminating about their faults, turned them into a monster that they aren’t.
When you train yourself to do that, you will be a person that brings blessing into your life.