CCHF Shalom Challenge Day Four: This Thing You Tell Yourself Causes 50% of the Arguments (or more)

CCHF Shalom Challenge Day Four: This Thing You Tell Yourself Causes 50% of the Arguments (or more) 1
You know why we go crazy when we meet someone who didn’t vote like us? You know what’s the trigger for machlokes – for discord?

This terrible habit many of us have ➔ of NOT REALLY KNOWING HOW AMAZING WE ARE.

We look at our weaknesses & mistakes often… but never take the time to look at our strengths.  All the difficulties we overcome. 
So then, when someone disagrees with us, the part inside us that feels small or insecure starts getting shaky again.

“I guess I’m really not that good. Not that important. Not that smart, or right, if you could disagree with me.”

When we talk about creating peace with how we view people (this week’s Shalom Challenge focus), the first person you need to view accurately is… yourself. 

So how do we fix our negative self-images so we don’t get triggered by different?

Do the thing that will force you to respect yourself ➡ respect others.

Western society tells you that if you want to fix your self-image:trump your achievements. take care of YOU.The Torah says the EXACT opposite. 

Aizehu mechubad? Who is honored?
Hamechabed es habriyos (Avos 4:1). One who honors others.

If you want to get to a space of honoring yourself — which is what Hashem wants you to do — then honor others. Every time you respect someone else, it’s a little reminder:
> 💡 people are worth respecting.
> 💡 I’m worth respecting.

And suddenly, the fact that he didn’t vote like you… you can shrug it off. 
Because you’re comfortable with yourself and your choices. And you don’t need anyone else to validate them.
Today’s challenge: Build inner respect with outer respect
 Do something to show another person respect you wouldn’t normally have done.

Some examples: Avoid interrupting, let a neighbor go first in line, don’t get distracted by your phone during a conversation
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